I have been a busy grandma. Last September my first grand-daughter was born (grand-child #3). EJ is a big girl and looks so much like my mother's side of the family. Round cheeks and a great smile. I was lucky enough to watch her be born.
Christmas came and it was difficult. The Christmas season was my mom's favorite of the year besides having flowers all over her yard. She liked having the family come to their house to laugh, eat and have fun. This was the 2nd Christmas without mom and I just couldn't go over to the house. My family did not understand why I was unable to go see my dad on the day, but I have decided that I am old enough to do what I want and if I don't want to be part of a negative (for me) event, I don't participate. I wanted celebrate the holiday at my home I share with my fiance, MG and we wanted to begin our own traditions.
Two of my daughters were able to come to our house for dinner and gift exchange. MG invited his sons but they were not able to make it, we saw them later in the week. It is always fun to see the grandchildren open their gifts and hear all the squeals. This was EJ's first so she was not aware of what was happening so this year will be more fun for all of us.
Then January 17th came around and it was time for grandchild #4 - HP to be born. EB is a good mom and SB is such a great dad and helps out. I am proud of them both. On January 26 (my mom's birthday) I was able to go to Phoenix and help with the baby when dad returned to work. I stayed 10 days and then a few days later the other grandma came to see her first grandchild. I didn't stay long enough. The baby is so cute and we all had a great time - Phoenix is a nice town. I would love to live in that part of the country.
That was my first trip away from home since MG and I got together and I missed him very much. We had gotten so very close in the last couple of months and we have such a great relationship. I am so blessed that he is in my life. I love him so much. We have a nice life. I am excited about the new year and look forward to our wedding later this year.
February 1st and grandchild #5 - MA comes early. I was in Phoenix so I missed the actual birth but heard all about it. I saw daughter (RJ) and son when I returned home. He is a little cutie, looks like dad but has my daughter's eyes and beautiful olive complexion. They live nearby so I can see him anytime I want. I have even babysat several times and I really enjoy that.
So, I went from 2 to 5 grand-children in 4 months. For now, my three girls are done birthin' babies and I can concentrate on my next big event - our wedding will be at the end of this year.
It is hard, but I am learning to let go of my children and let them live their own lives. I have to do that or I will not be able to enjoy my new life. This is something I really struggle with but it is the only way. That is what parents are supposed to do. Give their children roots and wings. They know I am always here if they need but I try not to hover like I used to. They are all grown with their own families and need to figure out life for themselves.
When you have brought up kids, there are memories you store directly in your tear ducts. ~Robert Brault
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